What really matters in life?
What really matters in life?
Life is all about striking a good balance amongst choices and responsibilities.
As a parent we need to work hard to afford the material needs and cravings of
our family. We need to labor strenuously day in and day out to keep the wolves
from the door, but we must also be mindful and attend to the psychological needsof our loved ones. The accompanying of parents is vital to the healthy growing
of a young child. It’s important that parents are around a child in vulnerablemoments when he feels excessively needy. As each of us goes through life andexperiences its trial and tribulation, it’s soothing to know that we always
have the strong shoulders of our loved ones to lean on. In our trivial dailyendeavors and in all good intention, we still at times lose sight of what reallymatters in this finite span of life. It’s only when our life is drawing nearan end that we often sense the deep regret that we have not spent enough time
with our loved one when we still had the chance.
In the book entitled “For one more day” American author Mitch Albom
delineates the deep human craving for a second chance to spending one more daywith our deceased loved one. Through the book I can sense that the author feelsthe profound anguish and helplessness of the human race as we face the
inevitable eternal departure of our loved ones from this world. The theme of despair and heartrending also scatter throughout Mitch Albom’s other two books,
“The five people you meet in heaven” and “Tuesdays with Morrie”. Death is aninextricable spell that haunts the entire human race since the outset ofcivilization. The inevitable demise of our existence is such a shocking and
horrifying ending that we humans can never face without grief and fear. Whatlies beyond the unthinkable is a vast terra incognita utterly inconceivable
to the human mind. The passing of a family member signifies the perpetual
termination of our relationship with the person we love, and the fact that we
can no longer repeat the interaction with the loved one causes a deep sense ofself-reproach, compunction and ruefulness. It’s always heartbreaking to realizethat our deepest longing of having a second chance to spend one more day with
our loved one, and say the things that we need to say from the depth of our
heart, to embrace and re-experience the companionship and to express our
affection and love toward the departed, will never be satisfied. While love
and memory can remain, the dialog, the interaction and further opportunity ofdeveloping the relationship will forever be no more.
Bearing in mind the end at the beginning is a good life approach that gives us
the ability to avoid remorse and regret when the final moment comes to pass. I
believe this is also one of Stephen Covey’s seven habits of highly effective
people: begin with the end in mind. The essence of this point is also mentioned
in Dr. Hal Urban’s excellent book called “Life’s greatest lessons: twenty
things that matter”. Aside from material needs, what our loved ones really
long for is the time that we spend together, and the everlasting memory and
emotional bond created therein.
Let’s never lose sight of this profound wisdom of the ages.
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